The Bystander Effect

   My first time experiencing the bystander effect was when I was in the third grade, while my brother was in the fifth grade. I was always a nerdy kind of kid in school while my brother had all the friends. I never understood why I could never have friends to hang with, play with, or even socialize with. He would have multiple friends like if he was a celebrity at school or something. So one day I called myself hanging out with my brother and his   peers so I can fit in with the popular cool kids. For the first two weeks all the fifth graders showed me kindness and respect because of my brother's popularity. I was fitting in well with the fifth graders too, they all loved wrestling, pokemon, and video games just like me so we all communicated well. However, a month later my brother's behavior was changing towards me. When we would be at home he would be my best friend, bed ut when we be at school he would not speak to me at all. As days went by I learned the reason why my brother's behavior had changed. It was because I took his spotlight of popularity. His friends would always come play kickball or socialize with me. Although, they barely spoke to him like they normally would. One day when my mom both of us up from school he had an outburst in the car and said that he hated being school because I stole his friends and that he wanted me to hang out with kids my age. After he spoke, my mom lectured us all the way home about how blood is thicker than water. Basically never let nobody outside our family come between us. My brother and I understood clearly and to this very day we've grown even more closer than we was a few years back.

Self-Regulated Behaviors

   The main problem I had in middle to up until I graduated from high school was how to control my physical environment. I was always one of them students who would always turn homework or classwork in late. However, I was easily distracted and still is . If I was doing homework at home. I would hear too much activity outside of my room. Then eventually I would join the activity. Rather it was playing the video game, going outside to play, texting, holding unimportant conversations with people , or playing basketball. When I was one years away from graduating high school, I would spend at least two hours in the library doing extra credit, studying, doing assigned homework, or reading. Doing that everyday brought my english grade from an F to a B- and my spanish class from a D- to a C+. When I saw the difference in my grades. I learned that my downfall was trying to do homework or study while I was in a rowdy area knowing I am easily distracted. Now til this day I still use the same tactic. Hopefully, it helps me pass my classes.